Focus on the Family Does Not So Love the World

Tim Tebow & Politically Incorrect eye make-upLast week, during the Broncos-Steelers NFL playoff game, Denver quarterback Tim Tebow had "John 3:16" painted under his eyes. When CBS aired a "John 3:16" commercial during the Broncos-Patriots playoff game on Saturday night, I suspect it had something to do with him. The ad was paid for by Focus on the Family.

 John 3:16 says, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him shall not perish, but have everlasting life." Focus on the Family will tell you that "whosoever" does not include people who are LGBT.

 The message of John 3:16 is not the message of Focus on the Family. Their message is one of hate. Their message is stained by the blood of hundreds, perhaps thousands, of LGBT youth who have taken their own lives rather than try to live in a world where the Focus on the Family message is accepted.

The blood of these children now stains the name of CBS. The horror that takes away the lives of millions of LGBT human beings now has the CBS stamp of approval. CBS has empowered the opponents of basicEric James Borges human dignity for LGBT Americans to stand by their so-called religions right to discriminate against us in the name of God.

When CBS aired this commercial, they opened the door. Every other belief system; and every organization that supports equality for people who are lesbian, gay, bi, and transgender; needs to demand their right to walk through the same door.

I am a Christian woman, but Christianity is no more valid than any other belief system. One of the least Christian things I can do is to believe that my beliefs are more than just that, beliefs. I have no knowledge about who and what God is or isn't. Neither does any other person in the world.

I have never been able to reconcile my belief in a loving God with the belief that a person has to be Christian to go to heaven. God also loves people of the Muslim faith. Atheists have a right to disbelieve. God doesn't mind. CBS needs to make sure that they air commercials that support equality in religious advertising.

Not quite two years have passed since CBS rejected an ad for the Super Bowl for a gay dating service. Barely a month has passed since Lowe's pulled its ad from "All-American Muslim" because of religious discrimination in America. If all of this sounds like why people left England 500 years ago, it should. American history proudly proclaims the reason to be religious persecution by the Church of England.

Are you prepared for a country in which you are required to be Christian? We are not that far away from it. You should also be prepared to understand that this will not be a form of Christianity that follows the teachings and example of Jesus. It will be the same form of Christianity that supports the execution and incarceration of the LGBT citizens of Uganda.

 The Focus on the Family pretense that they believe in a form of Christianity that reflects the idea that "God so loved the world", is a horrifying and paper-thin cover-up for their agenda to make being of another religion, or being of a different sexual orientation of gender identity, illegal in these United States.

 Perhaps CBS can become their national TV station. After all, we wouldn't want to have religious equity in broadcast television. And we certainly don't want any message about being lesbian, gay, bi, or transgender getting to our children and making them think that it might be ok to be who they are.

Stephanie MottStephanie Mott is a transsexual Christian woman from Topeka, Kansas. She was born in Lawrence, Kansas and grew up on a small farm nearby with her parents, two sisters, and two brothers.  Her parents and brothers are gone and never got the opportunity to know her. Her sisters are very supportive of her journey. Stephanie has a twenty-year-old son, from whom she is estranged.

 Having struggled through all of her life with who she was, and trying to live as the male she was not, Stephanie discovered alcohol about the age of 18. The next thirty years were a downward spiral of alcohol and drug abuse that led her to homelessness at the age of 48.

 In November 2005, Stephanie made the decision to transition. Eight months later, she found Metropolitan Community Church of Topeka and began her life as who she truly was. She transitioned on the job in 2007. In February 2009, Stephanie was laid-off and set about looking for a job as a woman who was still legally a male. In May, she went back to college and in August, she began working as the office assistant in the Shawnee County Commission office.

Today, Stephanie has an Associate of Arts degree in Human Services Management, and is about a 18 months away from her Bachelor of Social Work degree at Washburn University in Topeka. She writes a column for Liberty Press (Kansas’ statewide LGBT magazine – from 2008 through the present, and is also published on LgbtSr ( She is the author of My Long Walk Home, A Transsexual Journey, and a contributing writer for the newly released, A Waiting Room of One’s Own.

 Stephanie is the founder and executive director of Kansas Statewide Transgender Education Project (, an organization that works to eliminate discrimination against transgender people and their families through education, and Kansas vice-char/Topeka chapter chair of Kansas Equality Coalition ( Last November, the Topeka chapter of KEC was responsible for the addition of protections for LGBT students and staff in the Topeka School District’s discrimination and harassment policies, and narrowly missed creating a domestic partnership registry for the City of Topeka. Stephanie also has a significant role in the addition of gender identity to the City of Lawrence anti-discrimination policy. She promises that 2012 will be a year to remember for LGBT equality in Topeka and throughout Kansas.

 She can be reached at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it




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